Belonging, Love and Balance

There are many ways I can describe family constellations, depending on what aspect of it you are interested in: the individual soul, the family soul, health issues, loyalties to our family of origin not serving our present life and well-being.
What I can say in general is this:
1) As we all belong to a family/group, we are held together by an invisible field, where every member belong and is seen. When there is one or more that is forgotten/unseen/ostracized, the other members notice on a soul level and often times, the living and the young live the expression of that pain/missing member.
2) There is a natural flow of love that comes from parent to child through generations. When that flow changes or stops, there is usually an entanglement which family constellations can reveal and resolve.
3) There is a balance in relationships, when the balance is off, the relationship suffers — sometimes ending. Family constellations reveal such dynamics and bring many unconscious issues to light, allowing, peace, perspective and an opening for change.

Entanglements

Sometimes there is so much pain, anxiety or shame in a family system that the members don’t want to acknowledge an event or person. Examples may be abortions, adoptions, unusual death or injustice. People hope that perhaps if they didn’t talk about it anymore or bring it up, the pain would eventually disappear. Instead, what is covered up becomes an entanglement in the family system, when someone living unconsciously takes over the fate of an earlier member of the family and lives it out.

In therapy, clients may spend years talking about everything that could have contributed to their depression, relationship problems or illness. In Family Constellation work, facilitators are trained to use language that reaches the domain of the soul. It touches clients in a new place, often times beyond their their ability to understand but the shifts that occur inside and out become apparent.

Who are in my family?

Family in this work include: biological parents, children living or dead, adopted members, aborted members, previous loves, committed partners and ancestors.

In a family constellation, the members of our family are placed in the room. Our intuition rather than our mind orients their placement.

Then something quite amazing happens. Hidden dynamics or entanglements from the past or previous generations reveal themselves through the representatives. Some natural movements or statements will occur – movements our ancestors have been waiting for all this time. The shift that occurs during the constellation will realign the flow of love from the source into those living today.

The Truth Will Set You Free

“When hidden symmetries appear, entanglements are unraveled and truth can be seen … When truth can be seen, healing can happen.” (Bert Hellinger)

Hidden dynamics in our family soul from generations past can affect us and our children – even today.  When we cannot fully participate in life with health, love and strength, it is a sign there is an entanglement in our family system. Family Constellations allow us to stand back and see these dynamics more clearly,  shift them in a matter of hours and bring peace to our hearts.

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The Bridge Between Worlds

Min Yi Su is the bridge between worlds. Since immigrating from China at age 6, she became the translator, interpreter and connection to the free world for her parents. She raised her brother and became his caretaker since age nine.  Growing up in a contained Chinese-American community in New York City, she became the voice for those who wanted to be heard, to be the messenger, the accountant and the advocate for her family and herself.

Min Yi in Sichuan Basin

She realized the need for effective communication at a very young age, and then learned the value of compassionate communication after she started her own family. Her family and family of origin inspired  her to intensely self study psychology and communications to heal the trauma in her family from World War II, the Cultural Revolution and the affects it had on everyone there after. Her interest brought her to the works of Bert Hellinger who inspired Family Constellations, Marshall Rosenburg’s Non-Violent Communications, Eckhart Tolle, sufi masters Rumi and Hafiz, and many others.

Min Yi also instructs North Indian style yoga, partner yoga, parent-child yoga and guided meditations in the Eugene area. It is not just a form of exercise, it’s a moving meditation, a time when participants can block out the voices and noises of the outside world and focus on themselves and their inner source. Partner and parent-child yoga are simply a physical metaphor for the value of connection with another human being. When we are held up by leaning against another person, what happens when we move away, what happens when we push too hard, what happens when we let go? Through the physcial play of partner yoga, we learn not about interdependence but interconnectedness of our relationships.

Min Yi also enjoys supporting women on their journey into motherhood through prenatal and postnatal doula work. She is especially skilled at communicating with newborns and children of all ages. She learned to listen to her children very early and went diaperless with all three of her children – a practice still alive in remote parts of China and indigenious cultures. Her older children were joyously present at her more recent home births. She is an advocate for empowered childbirth and attachment parenting.

She is looking forward to extending her services to the community and humanity. Please contact her through this website for more information and find out how she can fully contribute to your well-being.